Succeed through Constructive Feedback ~ Top ‘7’ Tips

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Managing up or down, it takes courage to provide constructive feedback. No one wants to make another feel inferior. If you tell them that their work is not good enough, they internalize it as ‘I’m not good enough.’ You might have to sustain the backlash of anger that can occur.

Feedback is intended to improve a situation, not diminish it. A common complaint I hear is: “I keep giving him feedback on how his actions lessen his effectiveness, but he just doesn’t listen. All I want to hear is that he hears me and is working on it instead of immediate defensiveness.”

In order to succeed in anything important to you in life, from sports to business, it’s vital to have a pulse on how you are doing. If you don’t get feedback from others, you make up your own which is often inaccurate.

Here are my Top ‘7’ Tips to grow and succeed through graciously accepting constructive feedback:

1. Listen respectfully. Stop what you’re doing, breathe and demonstrate that you’re listening through nods and body language. Fully take in the verbal and nonverbal cues. Remember that the person providing the feedback intends to help you succeed.

2. Clarify their message. Make sure you understand the entire message. As tempting as it may be, don’t interrupt. Ask brief clarifying questions and again, listen. As the person providing your feedback may be nervous or inexperienced, their initial wording may not convey the full point.

3. Acknowledge the feedback provider. It’s rarely easy to deliver what could be viewed as negative information. Acknowledging the provider for their courage or insight does not mean that you agree or take the blame. You truly appreciate they’re caring enough to provide their point of view.

4. Don’t get defensive. Stay open and present. By now your mind may be racing from ‘you’re completely wrong’ to ‘I don’t need this job’ to ‘it’s someone else’s fault’. Instead, open up to the possibility that you may not have seen the ramifications of your actions.

5. Remain positive. Staying positive will open the conversation to a greater result. You may be tempted to lash back at the feedback provider or bring up unrelated situations. Either approach only makes things worse and can damage your relationship.

6. Take responsibility. Taking responsibility for an action plan moving forward does not mean that you fully agree with all parts of the feedback. Rather, it means that you have listened graciously, heard there is a problem and that you are willing to take action to improve yourself and the situation.

7. Be accountable. Don’t wait for your feedback provider to circle back with you, create a schedule to meet with him or her in a timely manner to provide updates on the action plan you created. Demonstrate that you are serious about making the needed changes to become even more brilliant in your endeavors.

Following these tips will not only bring you greater success, it will also strengthen relationships and open the door for future feedback for ongoing growth.

If you have an extremely difficult time in either providing or accepting feedback, join Toastmasters. There you’ll do both and witness how others deliver and accept feedback on a weekly basis. You’ll also become a more polished communicator.

I challenge you to seek feedback today to practice these tips, moving you even closer to your vision of phenomenal success.

Ann Golden Eglé, MCC, executive and leadership coach has steered highly-successful leaders & elite professionals to greater results in Bend, Oregon, since 1998. President of Golden Visions & Associates, LLC, Ann can be reached at 541-385-8887 or www.GVAsuccess.com.

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Ann Golden Eglé, MCC

Master Executive & Leadership Coach Ann Golden Eglé, MCC, has steered highly-successful individuals to greater results since 1998. President of Golden Visions & Associates, LLC, Ann can be reached at 541-385-8887 or subscribe to her newsletter at www.GVAsuccess.com.

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